Love or In Love?

Love or In-Love…

"It's still different when you love
someone and when ure inlove with someone"

explanation:

alin nga ba ang mas malalim? love o inlove?
marami sa atin ang naco2nfuse tungkol dito.
Ikaw ba ay may girlfriend o boyfriend ngaun? Mahal
mo ba siya pero prang may isang tao na parang
mahalaga din sayo. o may mahal ka n akala mo
eh mahal mo nga siya pero meron ka pa rin
isang tao na minamahal ng totoo. Kapag love mo ang
isang tao masaya ka..Feeling mo ok na ang
lahat..pero kung inlove ka, masakit yun! Kasi
ang mga taong inlove ay ang mga taong
ngsasakripisyo at ngpaparaya. Teka bakit ka
nga ba ngpaparaya? kc di ka niya mahal o dhil hindi
ka siguradong ok lng sa knya? Kung yan ang
dahiln mo, inlove ka nga sa knya. Kasi iniisip
mo kung ano meron kayo sa ngaun at kontento ka
na.

Pero isipin mo pano kung mawala ang tao un at
tlgng hindi na kau mgusap at magkita, kaya mo
ba? pano kung maguluhan siya sayo at
maisipang
layuan ka? pano kung sa sobrang pagiging iba
mo sa kanya di ka nya kausapin at tuldukan na
kung ano na ang meron kau? kya mo ba?kung
hindi ang sagot mo inlove ka nga.. Pano naman
pag mahal mo lang, pag mahal mo lang, alam
mo na parati kang may choice, ayaw mo siyang
mawala dhil alm mong wala ka ipapalit. Ung
masaya ka sa kanya pero sa gabi hindi naman
siya ang iniisip mo. Mahal mo siya pero
aminado ka sa sarili mo na balang araw hindi siya ang
pakakasalan mo. Mahal mo siya pero ang puso
mo hindi lng pra sa kanya.. Mahal mo at
masasaktan ka pagnawala siya pero alm mo na
kaya mo un.

Ngaun Love lng ba o Inlove ka na?

Isang araw magigising ka n lang na inlove ka na
nga pero huli na.

Tandaan: Masyadong mapaglaro ang puso
wag tayo magpaloko!!

ipost mo ulit to 2lungn natin na maliwanagan
ang iba..This is real nkatulong nato sa iba, Eto ang
naging dahiln na nasabi nya sa taong inlove
siya
ang totoo...

Thanks Gpie / AP

ANG GAMOT SA NAGDURUGONG PUSO.....

Another email worth sharin...

ANG GAMOT SA NAGDURUGONG PUSO..... I really dont know how I came up with this... eh una sa lahat wala naman ako prob sa lablayp.... pero wala lang... kahit sabihin kong masaya ako... parang di pa rin ako mapalagay na nakikita at naririnig na sa mundong ito, may mga nasasaktan pa rin... at ang masakit pa nun... ang iba dun ang mga kaibigan ko. Ive been hurt so many times na in my life na, minsan pa nga.. mismong kakain ako ng big mac eh tetext ako ng gf ko na pagalit.. aun... sira na nanaman ang araw ko..
Ung mga iba ko namang kaibigan, mas matindi pa ang storya.... pinagpalit daw sila sa iba... kunwari sila ang liligawan, pero ung nag lakad pa sa kanila ang siyang nakatuluyan ng lalaki.... hanubayun! Whatta sawi moment na maituturing.... pero I made her realize na love is unfair tlga.. lalo na pag ikaw ang nadehado. parang naging survival of the fittest na nga ang nangyayari ngayon sa pag ibig eh... ung tipong pag maganda ka, gwapo ang makakatuluyan mo, at kapag pangit ka, laking tsamba lang pag may hitsura pa ang napili mo. Eh ako naman di ganun kagwapuhan, di rin cute, minsan lang masabihan na may hitsura, eh di rin pinaligtas ng pag ibig.. haay... puro peklat na tlga tong puso ko.... dahil na rin cguro sa mga sugat noon.
Ilang taon din akong nagtiis na walang minahal.....or should I say walang nagmamahal sakin? That was the worst period of my life. Ung tipong mahal ko lang ang sarili ko dahil no choice eh.. la naman nagmamahal sakin, wala nga nagkakagusto sakin.. san pa ako? BUT as they always say.... IN every cloud, there's a silver lining. Oo tama, dahil sa mga panahong hirap ako sa labylayp.. natutunan ko na rin ang mag survive sa hirap at sakit na dulot ng pag ibig. Nanjan ung aliwin ang sarili sa barkada, pagbabad sa bilyaran o sa computer, pag aliw sa sarili ng ilang oras sa chat... o kaya'y ubusin ng husto ang laman ng ref mo, at sa mga babae naman, eh mag pa parlor, punta sa bahay ng bespren... lahat na para lang makalimutan ang mapait na nakaraan. So ano nga ba tlga ang mga gamotsa nagdurugong puso? IT IS NOT WHAT YOU DO THAT MAKES THE DIFFERENCE, BUT HOW YOU THINK.
Kahit libutin mo na ang buong luzon para kalimutan cya, kung hindi pa rin magbabago ang mindset mo about love.. sorry dude. WA EPEK... as in wala.. blanko... void.... null... empty set... zero percent... kapos... mintis... airball.... eh bakit?
Material pleasure can't compensate for the pain ur heart receives..... and pag ang heart eh nasaktan.. apektado na rin malamang ang utak.. coz they are in mutual status... masaktan ang isa.... masasaktan na rin ang kabila. Try changing ur mindset..... kung baga sa computer e kung panay palpak ang ginagawa ng hardware mo, at nagtataka ka kung bakit nakailang palit ka na eh sa karton pa rin ang ending nya, eh baka sa software na mismo ang problema, d b?
Kung basted ka ng babaeng mahal mo..... drinking every night and bar hopping won't do you good, tska gastos lang yan. Lying in ur bed the whole night and rolling there like a lumpia won't help yah ease the pain. Dapat alam mo na ang gagawin.... PRAY. KAhit gano ka pa ka demonyo eh sa pagdarasal pa rin ang tuloy mo dude. Totoo un. FInd a time alone na one day, kausapin mo Siya na parang kabarkada mo lang cya.. talk to Him as if kausap mo ang pinaka close na tao sa buhay mo... He can touch the hardest hearts and the vainest minds. He did that to me and im sure magagawa din nya sa inyo un.
Sa mga iniwanan ng kanilang bf/gf eh wag na wag kayo manonood ng mga movies na may IWANAN na tema.. its like jumping into a quicksand... lalo nyo lang nilubog ang sarili nyo.. sa mga nagsesenti naman... o cge oks lang yan... kasi ako rin ganun e.. d ba nga ang music is the choir of your heart? kahit ga BALDE na ang luha mo kaiiyak sa tune ng One last Cry ni Brian mcKnight eh oks lang un... kahit in reality hindi. Try straightening ur goals, point of views, or beliefs. Ano ba tlga ang gusto mo mangyari sa buhay mo? Sa lablayp mo? Siya ba tlga ang mahal mo? Kung siya tlga at di ka nya mahal, is it necessary ba tlga na dapat maging kayo para sumaya ka? Unconditional ba tlga ang love mo for him? Eh bakit naghahanap ka ng kapalit na pagmamahal? Bakit ka nasasaktan pag nalaman mong di ka pala mahal? Ano ba tlga ang definition mo ng loving someone? Bukal ba sa loob mo na masaya ka for her kahit hindi ikaw ang reason ng kanyang happiness? May umiibig bang hindi nabibi go? Pwede ka bang magmahal na hindi nasasaktan? ANong gusto mo, magmahal na masaktan, o hindi mahalin? You see, asking yourself these questions might straighten those curly love lashes of yours. DOnt think of ur inferiority, ung tipong kesyo pangit ka, may pimples ka, kulang ka sa height, kulang sa pera.... KAsi if the girl or guy dumped you dahil lang sa kakulangan mo sa pisikal na bagay, eh hindi tlga cya deserving na mahalin.. pramis. Ibang tao lang tlga ang bagay para sa kanila. Ikaw ba ung tipong tao na nakikita ang love in a black and white scale? Well...its now the right moment to realize na ang love have gray spots in it.. na hindi lahat ng tama ay tama at di lahat ng mali ay mali. BEing not open to these gray spots would spell disaster sa inyong "Getting over" na stage...
ano ba tlga tong gray spots na to? Ung tipong people who tend to fall out of love... hindi sa nagsasawa pero bigla na lang nila nalalaman na hindi na pala nila mahal ung gf/bf nila.. there's nothing really wrong about it (sa isang side).. kasi ganun tlga... di naman din nya sinadya na mahalin ka eh.. eh malamang di rin nya sadya ang mawala ang love nya... tamang isipin natin na love is a feeling... but it is not a decision... the decision part comes only when it concerns MAINTAINING the love... so as long as there's a feeling of love.. may decision kang i maintain un.... but un nga.. WHAT'S THE POINT OF MAINTAINING SOMETHING NA WALA NA TLGA? Eh kung wala nang love... eh wala na tlga. Kung tumagal man kayo, baka awa na lang ang nararamdaman niya to you. That's why it is important na ma clarify mo ang sarili mo sa mga ganitong gray spots....
Wala kang gelplen or boyplen....... SO WHAT'S THE BIG DEAL? sa unang tingin nakakainggit.. kasi nga may ka holding hands sila.. may natatawagan para mag gudnyt at i love you at kung anong klaseng panlalambing.... pero kung tutuusin... may kanya kanyang advantage at disadvantage ang pagiging single. disadvantages nga ung nabanggit earlier in this paragraph. Ang advantage? You can take care of yourself, or pag nagaaral ka pa eh you can concentrate on ur thesis... Magagawa mo rin ang di mo magagawa pag meron kayong ka relasyon, tama ba ako? So dont tell me na hindi ka masaya dahil lang sa wala kang gf/bf.... ang dami pang single jan, and karamihan sa kanila eh masaya din sa buhay nila .. believe me.
Pero we should also take into consideration na masarap din ang feeeling ng naaalagaan.. at minmahal d b? Well... that's where appreciating what your friends do to you comes into play. Friends or peers will always be there.. ung mga ka barkada mong iniwan mo sa ere para lang dumamubs sa yong girl eh babalik at babalikan mo rin bandang huli .... although hindi tlga healty na sabihing " Haaay sakit lang sa ulo yang mga lalaki" or "Gastos lang ang alam ng mga babaeng yan".... we should be fair.... ganun tlga... some will win.. some will lose. There's no point getting lost in ur life... nakagawa man sila ng mali... sila na ang bahala dun.. they only gave you the opportunity to react... but not the specfic reaction. Kung nasktan man tyo, hindi na nila problema un,problema na natin un. PAg ikaw ba eh nagmukmok sa isang sulok dahil sa ginawa nya eh iiyak ba cya? Hindi. Sa huli ikaw ang kawawa.
After a break up ..... act and look better. Sa unang rinig eh parang ang hangin ng dating... but the fact is... kailangan mo tlga gawin to. Why? Imagine you just had a break up with ur gf or bf.. tpos magpapakaawa effect ka to her... papasuin mo ang sarili mo ng yosi or maglalasing every night or magpupuyat hanggat sa magkaron ka na ng eye bags ... tpos bigla ka nakita ng X mo ... ano na lang ang sasabihn ng X mo? Kung balikan ka nun eh wag ka na rin matuwa kasi for sure malaki ang probablity nun eh naawa lang cya sayo. Stand tall and proud. HEllo?!?!??! Sino ba cya? As if mamamatay ka pag nawala cya, oo mahal mo cya.... pero kailangan naman mahalin mo rin ang saril mo, a man who can't love himself cannot trully love others.. look better not in a way na makakabingwit ka uli ng mga guys pero in a way na hindi ka tlga magmukhang talunan. ANd besides, pag nagkita kayo, make him/her tell to him/her self... " Gosh!! Yan ba ung iniwanan ko? HOw can i let her slip away from m e?" O d b? Kasi kung mukha ka na tlga losyang o dugyot after ur break up eh baka lalo lang nya naisip na tama ang naging break up nyo. Explore ur world..... kahit mahal natin ang isang tao... we can't away from the fact nakailangan natin maging exposed... d b? It's like a butterfly in a bottle of mayonnaise.. di makawala... di makita ng ibang tao ang kanyang kakayahan atkagandahan.... and even worse baka mamatay pa un,d b?
Sa mga probs na ganyan... alcohol and cigarettes don't work. Harapin mo na agad ang reality na nangyayari ang mga ganung bagay na hindi natin gusto. PAgsubok lang yan... hindi pa yan kamatayan. Funny coz lagi na lang sinasabi satin na THe lord God won't give us problems na hndi natin masosolve... pero still parang nagbibingi-bingian pa rin tyo.... natatakot pa rin tyo...
Obstacles are what you see when you take your eyes off your goal. Ano ba tlga ang goal mo? Ang magmahal o magkaron ng gf/bf? If you chose the latter, hindi ka tlga magiging happy.... Stop looking for love.. start being lovable. OPen ur heart to pain.. coz with pain comes happiness.... happiness na hindi kaagad nahahanap.. coz it slowly integrates from those little things that you do for love. Wear a smiling face always.... but dont smile alone... baliw ang tawag dun. What i mean is people tend to get close to those whom they know na masaya and maganda ang mindset. Stop talking and thinking about failures and pain.... coz what you think would most likely attract you.
BUt as always, its easier said than done.... tulad ko... ang dali kong sabihin to kasi im not in a not-so-nice situation.. pero natutunan ko tong mga to from my experience na rin eh... hindi naman tlga madali... pero hindi rin tlaga mahirap. ITs all in the mind and the heart. Kahit ano pang gawin sayo ng pag ibig..... always open ur heart.... dapat laging alive.... because you cannot love with a dead heart. Dont ever tell urself na ikaw ang pinakakawawang nilalang sa pagibig.... pano na lang ang mga taong namatayan.... mas masakit un d b? NAgkataon lang tlga na iba iba tyo ng problema....

From A Woman's Point of View

Got Another email worth sharing..

1. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
2. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
3. If you have ANY doubt in your mind about a man's character, leave himalone.
4. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
5. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationshipthat's not meant to be.
6. Don't force an attraction.
7. Slower is better.
8. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you trulyhappy.
9. If a relationship ends because the man was nottreating you as you deserve then heck no youcan't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat afriend.
10. Have faith in God regarding your relationship,but don't let faith make you stupid. God doesthings decent and in order.
11. Don't settle.
12. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
13. If he keeps changing his mind about therelationship--take that as a BIG sign that he isunstable. Do you really want to be with a man likethat?
14. Don't stay because you think "it will getbetter." You'll be mad at yourself a year later forstaying when things are not better.
15. Honorable men take care of their businessand aren't involved in a whole lot of mess.
16. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
17. There's only one 'reason' a man dumps you; he doesn't want you.
18. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by abunch of different women. He didn't marry themwhen he got them pregnant, why would he treatyou any differently?
19. You really do have to kiss a few frogs before finding the prince.
20. Always put yourself and your happiness first.
21. Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
22. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. Ifsomething bothers you, speak up.
23. If he doesn't call, he just isn't that interested.
24. Be honest and upfront.
25. Know when to cut the cord, don't be strung along.
26. Don't fall for the "I'm confused role". Removeyourself from the situation to let him figure thingsout (but don't wait for him, move on).
27. If you want to have a clue as to how he willtreat you, watch how he treats the WOMEN in hisfamily (not just mom).
28. There's more than physical abuse, there'semotional and mental abuse. If he causes any ofthem...flee.
29. You cannot change a man's behaviors. Change comes from within.
30. Don't let him pla! ce rules on you that he is notwilling to follow himself -- double-standard.
31. Don't EVER make him feel he is moreimportant than you are...even if he has moreeducation or in a better job.
32. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is aman, nothing more nothing less.
33. Demand respect and if he can't give it, he can't have you!
34. Don't compete with other woman, but beaware that men are attracted to what they see.
35. If you think he is cheating, he probably is.Confront him right away and if you feel he's lying,let him go.
36. Actions speak louder than words.
37. Never let a man define who you are.
38. Never rely on a man for compliments, look toyourself for that.
39. Never borrow someone else's man.
40. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
41. Just because he says he loves you, doesn'tmean that he won't hurt you and it doesn't meanthat you are meant to be w! ith him.
42. To use painful hard-won wisdom -- 'get it right' the next time.
43. Know that you deserve to be the number oneperson in the life of the #1person in your life.
44. Love is a verb ...
45. Learn to give up your lifelong task of trying tomake someone unavailable-available, someoneungiving-giving, and someone unloving-loving.
46. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
47. All men are NOT dogs.
48. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a twoway street.
49. If you don't love yourself...you can't love anyone else.
50. You cannot mend someone else's broken heart.
51. You need time to heal betweenrelationships...there is nothing cute aboutbaggage...deal with your issues before pursuing anew relationship.
52. You should never look for someone toCOMPLETE you...a relationship consists of twoWHOLE individuals...look for someonecomplementary...not supplementary.
53. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
54. NEVER give more in a relationship than you are getting out of it.
55. Never become your man's "therapist".
56. When actions and words conflict, believe theactions. Respond to the actions.
57. A real healthy relationship requires twopeople. One person can end it - but it takes two tomake it work.
58. Don't fall for the "I'm not the loving type"...whena man loves you there is nothing in this world(within reason) that he wouldn't do for you.
59. Make him miss you sometimes...when a manalways know where you are,and you're always readily available to him hetakes it for granted.
60. Give him his space...let him go out with hisboys, don't pressure him to spend time with you,You cant force a man to hang out with you.
61. If you wouldn't allow your daughter to be with him you shouldn't.
62. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
63. Never move into his mother's house.
64. Provide financially for yourself and don't depend on anyone.
65. Never co-sign for a man.
66. Never believe you have the perfect guy and he is so innocent.
67.! Never spoil your man; let him spoil you.
68. Never let a man mess up your credit.
69. When it's time to let go; let go.
70. Good men should be treated like good men.
71. Don't play games.
72. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that youneed.
73. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
74. Compatibility in terms of educational attainment, values, beliefs, personal and career goals, and socio economic status, are important.
75. Never date a guy who wears colored contacts

I.M.P.o.V.

True.

by T. D. Jakes

There are people who can walk away from you.And hear me when I tell you this! When people can walkaway from you: let them walk.

I don't want you to try to talk to another person intostaying with you, loving you, calling you, caringabout you, coming to see you, staying attached to you. I mean hang up the phone.When people can walk away from you let them walk.Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left.

People leave you because they are not joined to you and if they are not joined to you, you can't make them stay.
Let them go.
And it doesn't mean that they are a bad person it justmeans that their part in the story is over. Andyou've gotto know when people's part in your story is over sothat you don't keeptrying to raise the dead.
You've got to know when it's dead.You've got to know when it's over. Let me tell yousomething. I've got the gift of good-bye. It's thetenth spiritual gift, I believe in good-bye. It's not that I'm hateful, it's that I'm faithful, and I know whatever God means for me tohave He'll give it to me.And if it takes too much sweat I don't need it. Stopbegging people to stay.Let them go!!
If you are holding on to something that doesn't belongto you and was never intended for your life, then you need to......LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to past hurts and pains ......LET IT GO!!!
If someone can't treat you right, love you back, andsee your worth.....LET IT GO!!!
If someone has angered you .......LET IT GO!!!
If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil andrevenge......LET IT GO!!!
If you are involved in a wrong relationship oraddiction......LET IT GO!!!
If you are holding on to a job that no longer meetsyour needs or talents ......LET IT GO!!!
If you have a bad attitude.......LET IT GO!!!
If you keep judging others to make yourself feelbetter......LET IT GO!!!
If you're stuck in the past and God is trying to takeyou to a new level in Him......LET IT GO!!!
If you are struggling with the healing of a brokenrelationship.......LET IT GO!!!
If you keep trying to help someone who won't even tryto help themselves......LET IT GO!!!
If you're feeling depressed and stressed .........LET IT GO!!!
If there is a particular situation that you are soused to handling yourself and God is saying "take yourhands off of it," then you need to......LET IT GO!!!
Let the past be the past. Forget the former things.GOD is doing a new thing for 2009!!! LET IT GO!!!Get Right or Get Left.. think about it, and then ....LET IT GO!!!

"The Battle is the Lord's!"The bible said that, they came out from usthat it might be made manifest that they were not forus. For had they been of us, no doubt they would havecontinued with us. [1 John 2:19]

I.M.P.o.V.

Learn to LET Go.

PEOPLE WHO ARE TAKEN

Got this email from a friend... worth sharing.

PEOPLE WHO ARE TAKEN
are moreinteresting most of the time, right? And I’ve been battling whetherit’s because they’re really interesting, or it’s a thrill for them totake notice of us.
Recently, I heardfrom a friend that she got to talk to her "one-who-got-away" and theyfinally admitted how much they feel for each other. Problem is…he’salready married.
But is it a problem, really? Or just a problem created by the society?
When I wasyounger, and very much trapped in the dictates of the Society, I wouldcarelessly call those who become causes of breakups sluts, whores. Seehow much bias there is? What do you call guys who cause breakups?Nothing. Nada.
But now that I’molder, and more exposed to others’ experiences, I have come to realizethat it’s not easy to be the "cause". Nobody wants to be called a slut,or whore, after all. In most cases, these people are the ones those ina relationship meet too late, or the ones they call their unfinishedbusiness.
And these"causes" have feelings, too. Name-calling to swallow, loved ones tosacrifice. But love is just so powerful it allows them to hold on. Holdon to a feeling they’re not sure will be reciprocated by the other.
It’s so easy tothink negative of them, but until you’ve experienced it yourself, orsomeone close to you experiences it, you can never really understandthe situation. You’ll never understand how hard it is to resisttemptation even though you do not intend to hurt others. How hard it isto stop communication long after you should have. How hard it is not tothink of that special someone, and how happy you guys would have been.
Sure we may arguehere that the taken is stupid if he left an unfinished business. Butit’s not that easy, really. Sometimes, they have to be practical.Sometimes, they have to play it safe. But practicality and love are noton the same level. That person may be selfish for pursuing his/herfeelings towards someone who’s not his current partner, but isn’t ithuman nature to be weak? We are all weak at certain times, and his/heronly fault is that s/he gave in to a weakness considered evil by mostpeople.
Life is reallyuncertain. Sometimes, we think we are so in love with somebody andlater on find out that we’re in love with someone else. Andcommitment and convenience are the very reasons why it’s hard for us tolet go.
It’s true we havea price we have to pay for every decision we make. It’s true we have tolearn how to control ourselves and practice the art of being just. Butwhen it comes to feelings, to strong emotions, is there such a thing asbeing FAIR?

I.M.P.oV.

I think its a matter of doin what is right..no one is to be blame, we all have feelings, and sometimes it rules over us.. I mean evryone has his/her own decision to make whether if its wrong or right & even if you tell the person what's the right thing to do, they would still do what they think is right-that's their "free will"...just my POV.