Got Another email worth sharing..
1. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
2. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
3. If you have ANY doubt in your mind about a man's character, leave himalone.
4. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
5. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationshipthat's not meant to be.
6. Don't force an attraction.
7. Slower is better.
8. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you trulyhappy.
9. If a relationship ends because the man was nottreating you as you deserve then heck no youcan't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat afriend.
10. Have faith in God regarding your relationship,but don't let faith make you stupid. God doesthings decent and in order.
11. Don't settle.
12. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
13. If he keeps changing his mind about therelationship--take that as a BIG sign that he isunstable. Do you really want to be with a man likethat?
14. Don't stay because you think "it will getbetter." You'll be mad at yourself a year later forstaying when things are not better.
15. Honorable men take care of their businessand aren't involved in a whole lot of mess.
16. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
17. There's only one 'reason' a man dumps you; he doesn't want you.
18. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by abunch of different women. He didn't marry themwhen he got them pregnant, why would he treatyou any differently?
19. You really do have to kiss a few frogs before finding the prince.
20. Always put yourself and your happiness first.
21. Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
22. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. Ifsomething bothers you, speak up.
23. If he doesn't call, he just isn't that interested.
24. Be honest and upfront.
25. Know when to cut the cord, don't be strung along.
26. Don't fall for the "I'm confused role". Removeyourself from the situation to let him figure thingsout (but don't wait for him, move on).
27. If you want to have a clue as to how he willtreat you, watch how he treats the WOMEN in hisfamily (not just mom).
28. There's more than physical abuse, there'semotional and mental abuse. If he causes any ofthem...flee.
29. You cannot change a man's behaviors. Change comes from within.
30. Don't let him pla! ce rules on you that he is notwilling to follow himself -- double-standard.
31. Don't EVER make him feel he is moreimportant than you are...even if he has moreeducation or in a better job.
32. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is aman, nothing more nothing less.
33. Demand respect and if he can't give it, he can't have you!
34. Don't compete with other woman, but beaware that men are attracted to what they see.
35. If you think he is cheating, he probably is.Confront him right away and if you feel he's lying,let him go.
36. Actions speak louder than words.
37. Never let a man define who you are.
38. Never rely on a man for compliments, look toyourself for that.
39. Never borrow someone else's man.
40. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
41. Just because he says he loves you, doesn'tmean that he won't hurt you and it doesn't meanthat you are meant to be w! ith him.
42. To use painful hard-won wisdom -- 'get it right' the next time.
43. Know that you deserve to be the number oneperson in the life of the #1person in your life.
44. Love is a verb ...
45. Learn to give up your lifelong task of trying tomake someone unavailable-available, someoneungiving-giving, and someone unloving-loving.
46. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
47. All men are NOT dogs.
48. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a twoway street.
49. If you don't love yourself...you can't love anyone else.
50. You cannot mend someone else's broken heart.
51. You need time to heal betweenrelationships...there is nothing cute aboutbaggage...deal with your issues before pursuing anew relationship.
52. You should never look for someone toCOMPLETE you...a relationship consists of twoWHOLE individuals...look for someonecomplementary...not supplementary.
53. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
54. NEVER give more in a relationship than you are getting out of it.
55. Never become your man's "therapist".
56. When actions and words conflict, believe theactions. Respond to the actions.
57. A real healthy relationship requires twopeople. One person can end it - but it takes two tomake it work.
58. Don't fall for the "I'm not the loving type"...whena man loves you there is nothing in this world(within reason) that he wouldn't do for you.
59. Make him miss you sometimes...when a manalways know where you are,and you're always readily available to him hetakes it for granted.
60. Give him his space...let him go out with hisboys, don't pressure him to spend time with you,You cant force a man to hang out with you.
61. If you wouldn't allow your daughter to be with him you shouldn't.
62. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
63. Never move into his mother's house.
64. Provide financially for yourself and don't depend on anyone.
65. Never co-sign for a man.
66. Never believe you have the perfect guy and he is so innocent.
67.! Never spoil your man; let him spoil you.
68. Never let a man mess up your credit.
69. When it's time to let go; let go.
70. Good men should be treated like good men.
71. Don't play games.
72. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that youneed.
73. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
74. Compatibility in terms of educational attainment, values, beliefs, personal and career goals, and socio economic status, are important.
75. Never date a guy who wears colored contacts
I.M.P.o.V.
True.
Tuesday, July 28, 2009
Friday, July 24, 2009
by T. D. Jakes
There are people who can walk away from you.And hear me when I tell you this! When people can walkaway from you: let them walk.
I don't want you to try to talk to another person intostaying with you, loving you, calling you, caringabout you, coming to see you, staying attached to you. I mean hang up the phone.When people can walk away from you let them walk.Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left.
People leave you because they are not joined to you and if they are not joined to you, you can't make them stay.
Let them go.
And it doesn't mean that they are a bad person it justmeans that their part in the story is over. Andyou've gotto know when people's part in your story is over sothat you don't keeptrying to raise the dead.
You've got to know when it's dead.You've got to know when it's over. Let me tell yousomething. I've got the gift of good-bye. It's thetenth spiritual gift, I believe in good-bye. It's not that I'm hateful, it's that I'm faithful, and I know whatever God means for me tohave He'll give it to me.And if it takes too much sweat I don't need it. Stopbegging people to stay.Let them go!!
If you are holding on to something that doesn't belongto you and was never intended for your life, then you need to......LET IT GO!!!
If you are holding on to past hurts and pains ......LET IT GO!!!
If someone can't treat you right, love you back, andsee your worth.....LET IT GO!!!
If someone has angered you .......LET IT GO!!!
If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil andrevenge......LET IT GO!!!
If you are involved in a wrong relationship oraddiction......LET IT GO!!!
If you are holding on to a job that no longer meetsyour needs or talents ......LET IT GO!!!
If you have a bad attitude.......LET IT GO!!!
If you keep judging others to make yourself feelbetter......LET IT GO!!!
If you're stuck in the past and God is trying to takeyou to a new level in Him......LET IT GO!!!
If you are struggling with the healing of a brokenrelationship.......LET IT GO!!!
If you keep trying to help someone who won't even tryto help themselves......LET IT GO!!!
If you're feeling depressed and stressed .........LET IT GO!!!
If there is a particular situation that you are soused to handling yourself and God is saying "take yourhands off of it," then you need to......LET IT GO!!!
Let the past be the past. Forget the former things.GOD is doing a new thing for 2009!!! LET IT GO!!!Get Right or Get Left.. think about it, and then ....LET IT GO!!!
"The Battle is the Lord's!"The bible said that, they came out from usthat it might be made manifest that they were not forus. For had they been of us, no doubt they would havecontinued with us. [1 John 2:19]
I.M.P.o.V.
Learn to LET Go.
I don't want you to try to talk to another person intostaying with you, loving you, calling you, caringabout you, coming to see you, staying attached to you. I mean hang up the phone.When people can walk away from you let them walk.Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left.
People leave you because they are not joined to you and if they are not joined to you, you can't make them stay.
Let them go.
And it doesn't mean that they are a bad person it justmeans that their part in the story is over. Andyou've gotto know when people's part in your story is over sothat you don't keeptrying to raise the dead.
You've got to know when it's dead.You've got to know when it's over. Let me tell yousomething. I've got the gift of good-bye. It's thetenth spiritual gift, I believe in good-bye. It's not that I'm hateful, it's that I'm faithful, and I know whatever God means for me tohave He'll give it to me.And if it takes too much sweat I don't need it. Stopbegging people to stay.Let them go!!
If you are holding on to something that doesn't belongto you and was never intended for your life, then you need to......LET IT GO!!!
If you are holding on to past hurts and pains ......LET IT GO!!!
If someone can't treat you right, love you back, andsee your worth.....LET IT GO!!!
If someone has angered you .......LET IT GO!!!
If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil andrevenge......LET IT GO!!!
If you are involved in a wrong relationship oraddiction......LET IT GO!!!
If you are holding on to a job that no longer meetsyour needs or talents ......LET IT GO!!!
If you have a bad attitude.......LET IT GO!!!
If you keep judging others to make yourself feelbetter......LET IT GO!!!
If you're stuck in the past and God is trying to takeyou to a new level in Him......LET IT GO!!!
If you are struggling with the healing of a brokenrelationship.......LET IT GO!!!
If you keep trying to help someone who won't even tryto help themselves......LET IT GO!!!
If you're feeling depressed and stressed .........LET IT GO!!!
If there is a particular situation that you are soused to handling yourself and God is saying "take yourhands off of it," then you need to......LET IT GO!!!
Let the past be the past. Forget the former things.GOD is doing a new thing for 2009!!! LET IT GO!!!Get Right or Get Left.. think about it, and then ....LET IT GO!!!
"The Battle is the Lord's!"The bible said that, they came out from usthat it might be made manifest that they were not forus. For had they been of us, no doubt they would havecontinued with us. [1 John 2:19]
I.M.P.o.V.
Learn to LET Go.
PEOPLE WHO ARE TAKEN
Got this email from a friend... worth sharing.
PEOPLE WHO ARE TAKEN
are moreinteresting most of the time, right? And I’ve been battling whetherit’s because they’re really interesting, or it’s a thrill for them totake notice of us.
Recently, I heardfrom a friend that she got to talk to her "one-who-got-away" and theyfinally admitted how much they feel for each other. Problem is…he’salready married.
But is it a problem, really? Or just a problem created by the society?
When I wasyounger, and very much trapped in the dictates of the Society, I wouldcarelessly call those who become causes of breakups sluts, whores. Seehow much bias there is? What do you call guys who cause breakups?Nothing. Nada.
But now that I’molder, and more exposed to others’ experiences, I have come to realizethat it’s not easy to be the "cause". Nobody wants to be called a slut,or whore, after all. In most cases, these people are the ones those ina relationship meet too late, or the ones they call their unfinishedbusiness.
And these"causes" have feelings, too. Name-calling to swallow, loved ones tosacrifice. But love is just so powerful it allows them to hold on. Holdon to a feeling they’re not sure will be reciprocated by the other.
It’s so easy tothink negative of them, but until you’ve experienced it yourself, orsomeone close to you experiences it, you can never really understandthe situation. You’ll never understand how hard it is to resisttemptation even though you do not intend to hurt others. How hard it isto stop communication long after you should have. How hard it is not tothink of that special someone, and how happy you guys would have been.
Sure we may arguehere that the taken is stupid if he left an unfinished business. Butit’s not that easy, really. Sometimes, they have to be practical.Sometimes, they have to play it safe. But practicality and love are noton the same level. That person may be selfish for pursuing his/herfeelings towards someone who’s not his current partner, but isn’t ithuman nature to be weak? We are all weak at certain times, and his/heronly fault is that s/he gave in to a weakness considered evil by mostpeople.
Life is reallyuncertain. Sometimes, we think we are so in love with somebody andlater on find out that we’re in love with someone else. Andcommitment and convenience are the very reasons why it’s hard for us tolet go.
It’s true we havea price we have to pay for every decision we make. It’s true we have tolearn how to control ourselves and practice the art of being just. Butwhen it comes to feelings, to strong emotions, is there such a thing asbeing FAIR?
I.M.P.oV.
I think its a matter of doin what is right..no one is to be blame, we all have feelings, and sometimes it rules over us.. I mean evryone has his/her own decision to make whether if its wrong or right & even if you tell the person what's the right thing to do, they would still do what they think is right-that's their "free will"...just my POV.
PEOPLE WHO ARE TAKEN
are moreinteresting most of the time, right? And I’ve been battling whetherit’s because they’re really interesting, or it’s a thrill for them totake notice of us.
Recently, I heardfrom a friend that she got to talk to her "one-who-got-away" and theyfinally admitted how much they feel for each other. Problem is…he’salready married.
But is it a problem, really? Or just a problem created by the society?
When I wasyounger, and very much trapped in the dictates of the Society, I wouldcarelessly call those who become causes of breakups sluts, whores. Seehow much bias there is? What do you call guys who cause breakups?Nothing. Nada.
But now that I’molder, and more exposed to others’ experiences, I have come to realizethat it’s not easy to be the "cause". Nobody wants to be called a slut,or whore, after all. In most cases, these people are the ones those ina relationship meet too late, or the ones they call their unfinishedbusiness.
And these"causes" have feelings, too. Name-calling to swallow, loved ones tosacrifice. But love is just so powerful it allows them to hold on. Holdon to a feeling they’re not sure will be reciprocated by the other.
It’s so easy tothink negative of them, but until you’ve experienced it yourself, orsomeone close to you experiences it, you can never really understandthe situation. You’ll never understand how hard it is to resisttemptation even though you do not intend to hurt others. How hard it isto stop communication long after you should have. How hard it is not tothink of that special someone, and how happy you guys would have been.
Sure we may arguehere that the taken is stupid if he left an unfinished business. Butit’s not that easy, really. Sometimes, they have to be practical.Sometimes, they have to play it safe. But practicality and love are noton the same level. That person may be selfish for pursuing his/herfeelings towards someone who’s not his current partner, but isn’t ithuman nature to be weak? We are all weak at certain times, and his/heronly fault is that s/he gave in to a weakness considered evil by mostpeople.
Life is reallyuncertain. Sometimes, we think we are so in love with somebody andlater on find out that we’re in love with someone else. Andcommitment and convenience are the very reasons why it’s hard for us tolet go.
It’s true we havea price we have to pay for every decision we make. It’s true we have tolearn how to control ourselves and practice the art of being just. Butwhen it comes to feelings, to strong emotions, is there such a thing asbeing FAIR?
I.M.P.oV.
I think its a matter of doin what is right..no one is to be blame, we all have feelings, and sometimes it rules over us.. I mean evryone has his/her own decision to make whether if its wrong or right & even if you tell the person what's the right thing to do, they would still do what they think is right-that's their "free will"...just my POV.
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